Some of us have great support systems, some of us are a those support systems and some of us are lucky enough to have/be both. Anything in this world that needs to be held upright needs some type of support, including us.

I strongly believe everyone you meet in life has the ability to offer you a gift that will contribute positively to your own growth, that could be a new perspective, a new skill, a new idea, anything! So being supportive of one another should be second nature.

Don’t ask? Won’t get. 

Not everyone thinks the way you do and the only way you’ll receive the support you actually need is by being clear. Some people, including myself at times, find it hard to outright ask people for support (especially when you’re used to being independent) but sometimes splitting the load is essential for being more effective. 9 times out of 10, people will be happy to use their skill to help you, especially if they can see you’re driven. (There’s a difference between asking for support and being a bit lazy)

Be realistic

Most people are under the misconception that being supportive or receiving support should be a 24/7 process, but in actuality, we all have lives which can be busy or hectic at times. Giving your support wherever you can is OKAY. (you’re still giving!) Being supportive to others does not mean you must compromise yourself or feel guilty for not providing constant support, the important thing is to provide it when you can.

Be mindful

Make sure the people you lean on  genuinely care about your well-being, development and life ambitions, (YES) but most importantly, make sure they are strong enough to support themselves (and vice versa). Sometimes we expect the world from people who are only capable giving us an island at that point in time, and rather than burning bridges, maybe think about whether you may need to step up and offer your support.

Be the person you need

Equally, if you are relying heavily on others for support and not receiving any, it might be time to reassess your situation and start giving yourself the support you desire. There will be times when you’ll need to be open to receiving support, and there will also be times where you’ll need to be your own number one fan/support system. Be someone who can do both.

photography by : @Keishakfrancis [Instagram]

Autumn as we know, is a time of change- From life, to  health, skin and hair. The best way to deal with these changes is to make a few minor adjustments and hopefully I’ll be able to provide some great suggestions (meaning you can expect more helpful tips, tutorials etc. for the next few months).

I wanted to start off by sharing two favourites and two hacks that may be a huge help this autumn. (In order of the photos) My first favourite is the Lush lip scrub- If you’ve read my ‘spa glow at home‘ post you’ll be familiar with this one. It’s fantaaaastic this time of year as the cold weather really wreaks havoc on our skin, especially lips, causing chapping and peeling- not so glamorous… I wont go into too much detail on this product so do click the link!

My second favourite is for the ladies, this one’s the Dolce and Gabbana 3 L’Impératrice perfume, which happened to be a favourite due to the number of compliments I’ve received about this scent- it really does smells gorgeous. For those of you who like fruity/ floral scents this one is perfect and I think quite timeless. I did initially think this was a summery scent but its subtle rhubarb/musky undertones (please trust me, it smells amazing lol) can definitely be worn throughout this season.

Now for the hacks, I will warn you Cod Liver Oil is not for the faint-hearted, however, it does you sooo much good in the long run. I’m a strong believer in prevention being better than cure and with us being more susceptible to falling ill during the colder months, taking the recommended daily dose of Cod Liver oil can boost your immune system, keep your bones and muscles strong, as well as contribute to thicker, healthier hair growth. (yes please!)

Lastly but not least… Shea Butter! Shea butter is one of my favourite hacks for autumn/winter because it can be used from head to toe (literally). For thicker natural hair, Shea butter is great for sealing in moisture and protecting strands effectively, as it is more dense than other natural oils- don’t overdo it though because you still want to be able to get moisture IN. For skin, it works wonders for sealing in moisture too. The best way to incorporate it into your skincare regime is to mix some in with your body lotion/hand cream so that they stay on your skin longer and work more effectively. It’s also great to use on your body (especially feet!) after an evening bath.

Shop the products: Lip Scrub  , Fragrance , Cod Liver Oil (also available in capsules) Shea Butter

Blessings and love,

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Being Caribbean, I wanted to somehow bring as much tropical vibes as possible to Notting Hill Carnival from head to toe, so aside from waving my Jamaican flag I felt it was only necessary to wear my natural hair in a free-flowing, bouncy, curly, beach-ified updo!

HAIR: To achieve this look I put my hair into a high ponytail and left out a fringe and a few strands at the back, before spritzing the ponytail with water. Next I sealed in the moisture with olive oil and encouraged my curls to form using my hands. Lastly, I added some extra curls to the fringe and strands at the back with a small curling wand to add some variation.

HACKS:

The atmosphere at carnival this year was exceptional! All in all, the vibes, music and weather set the tone for celebration. Here are 5 Carnival Hacks EVERYONE should know:

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  • First things first, create a group chat. Losing a friend in the hustle and bustle of Notting Hill Carnival is only fun for about 3 seconds. Contacting your friends can be quite difficult so before you head out, create a group chat so that everyone sees the same information at the same time.
  • Fuel is important, bring snacks! When I was younger my aunt would bring a packed lunch with fried chicken, a selection of drinks, the works. For those who prefer to pack light, snacks like cereal bars paired with water and a small juice are essential for a quick energy boost and hydration.
  • Pack a couple of travel size toiletries such as deodorant, hand sanitiser and wipes to keep fresh, especially incase you need to use portable loos. Some residents and restaurants do allow carnival goers to use their toilets for about £1-£2 but it is still a good idea to carry wipes or some tissues. (I used the toilet in a Caribbean food shop and someone had completely soaked the toilet roll, luckily the staff had another one close by) Mini toiletries are great for anything from makeup disasters to getting rid of germs fast!
  • Evaluate the essentials. Leave your heels, sandals and brand new white trainers at home (please, it’s not worth it) comfort is key. Shoes that you can stand in all day, and shoes that can be wiped clean are ideal for carnival. If you have car keys that are attached to your set of house keys and you aren’t driving… Take them off and leave them at home! If you usually wear any sentimental pieces of jewellery, opting for costume jewellery is generally the safer option.
  • Bring Cash! There will be tons of stands selling a variety of Afro-Caribbean dishes along the way, mainly specialising in Caribbean cuisine. If you know you love your Jerk chicken, make sure you have some cash for extra food, drinks and most importantly, getting home.

Lastly, make sure you enjoy!