Some of us have great support systems, some of us are a those support systems and some of us are lucky enough to have/be both. Anything in this world that needs to be held upright needs some type of support, including us.
I strongly believe everyone you meet in life has the ability to offer you a gift that will contribute positively to your own growth, that could be a new perspective, a new skill, a new idea, anything! So being supportive of one another should be second nature.
Don’t ask? Won’t get.
Not everyone thinks the way you do and the only way you’ll receive the support you actually need is by being clear. Some people, including myself at times, find it hard to outright ask people for support (especially when you’re used to being independent) but sometimes splitting the load is essential for being more effective. 9 times out of 10, people will be happy to use their skill to help you, especially if they can see you’re driven. (There’s a difference between asking for support and being a bit lazy)
Most people are under the misconception that being supportive or receiving support should be a 24/7 process, but in actuality, we all have lives which can be busy or hectic at times. Giving your support wherever you can is OKAY. (you’re still giving!) Being supportive to others does not mean you must compromise yourself or feel guilty for not providing constant support, the important thing is to provide it when you can.
Make sure the people you lean on genuinely care about your well-being, development and life ambitions, (YES) but most importantly, make sure they are strong enough to support themselves (and vice versa). Sometimes we expect the world from people who are only capable giving us an island at that point in time, and rather than burning bridges, maybe think about whether you may need to step up and offer your support.
Be the person you need
Equally, if you are relying heavily on others for support and not receiving any, it might be time to reassess your situation and start giving yourself the support you desire. There will be times when you’ll need to be open to receiving support, and there will also be times where you’ll need to be your own number one fan/support system. Be someone who can do both.
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